Some children may need help to develop their conversational skills. The following strategies and activities can help.
Active listening that includes:
- learning 'what listening looks like' and the signals that speakers need from listeners in order to keep talking - do the listeners seem interested? Are they responding?;
- taking in what someone else is saying and responding to it by asking a relevant question or adding a relevant comment;
- being able to report back on what someone has just told you.
Turn taking:
At a very basic level, this can be explained to children in terms of fairness: who hasn't said anything yet?
Learning to pick up on signals
Some children may need to be taught to read the body language of listeners, or a speaker's tone of voice and the information this gives. This can be done by:
- discussing extracts from videos such as soaps;
- being asked to comment on their own experiences - how did their friends react when they were told something exciting, important, upsetting, annoying?
Discussion can range from the very simple to more complex ideas:
- 'Did X look interested or bored, when you told her you were going to have a new dog?'
- 'Mrs C's voice sounded a bit creaky, when she said she liked football ... do you think she really likes it? What told you she doesn't?.
Adult role play can be used to exemplify being (im)precise, (ir)relevant, or too lengthy or just boring.
Group/individual focus
Discussion groups can be used to focus on specific conversational skills, such as turntaking or topic maintenance.
Barrier games encourage precision in talking.
Teachers/TAs can follow up sessions and teach children how to pick up signals and apply this knowledge to their own behaviours, for example, that too much information may lead to boredom in the listener. This can be done through adult role play or by giving feedback on the child's specific targets.
Classroom management
Teachers can make codes of social convention explicit.
School rules can be made visual - for example, what level of noise is acceptable in the hall, in the classroom, in the playground.
Circle time can be used to teach simple turn taking or topic maintenance - but note that this is usually set up very formally and may not teach the child to pick up on more subtle signs, such as boredom if they give too much information.
Adults leading discussion groups/circle time can explicitly teach children how to discuss.